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To Pittsburgh with Love, From DC

DC <3 Pittsburgh.  The panoply of said DC love will be on display 2.14.12.  DC is preparing some specially made valentines for Pittsburgh.  Besides showing our inter-city love, there is another implication for this showing of love.  It means I’m back at it…making 200 of something, for all of you, with the help of some great friends.  (For the back story to understand the scale of what a comment like this means, read this once you’ve read about DC’s Valentine to you.)

During Love of Friends this year, you will see strung around the party space these little origami hearts:

Take one. They’re for you.  New friends I’ve met in DC, and friends I’ve known in Pittsburgh now living in our nation’s capital got together (and will continue to get together probably up until the moment I drive up to Pittsburgh for the party)  at various events to learn how to make the hearts* and to stuff them with a little message just for you.  We just wanted to bring a little bit of DC to Pittsburgh on the best day of the year: 2.14.

Group love: the process of making hearts.

* So, I’m team lead on the origami heart project…someone that is not linear…someone that has problems with assembly lines (though, I love them, and Fordism)…Someone who’s house looks like this after a crafting session:

Love of Friends team members and friends make homemade calendars

 

 

 

 

 

 

In teaching others how to make origami hearts, and after a dear friend portentously said to me, “Regina, every year you say whatever you make for Love of Friends is going to be easy. It’s never easy.” (to which I replied, “no…I guess it’s not that easy…but there IS a lot of love involved!”)  the following conversation did occur:

Me: Okay, so you fold the paper this way (group does) then this way (group folds paper), and then you do this (group follows along) and then you…shoot…hmmm…I forgot…I thought I would remember…dang it…okay, let me look it up…[fast forward 5 minutes to finding the website with the directions] Okay!  RIGHT, so you do this, and THEN that (group, still with me, believe it or not, folds) and then you…oh, right…this part was kind of hard, I remember that…so you have to sort of do this thing…hmmm, let me find my prototype…where did I put that?…

As frustrating as that probably was for a lot of people, we made it work!  Now, a bunch of us know how to make origami hearts, and we now only need to make about 180 more! It’s going to be great.  So, when you unclip a heart at the party, know that heart was handmade with lots and lots of love.

A brief history of the LoF goody

By Regina.

This is a picture of the 200 tote bags made out of donated t-shirts.

The infamous LoF Craft

Have you ever tried to make 200 of something?  When asked a question like this, you don’t really need to ponder, I guess.  It’s not something you forget.  Have you ever tried to make 175 of something, or hell, 75 of something?

Each year, with the help of amazing friends, the Love of Friends team creates a goody for all of our friends to take home at the end of the LoF celebration. We’ve hand painted pins and hand-crafted magnets (many of which still adorn my refrigerator).  We’ve hand-painted wine glasses while drinking wine.

This is a photo of the billion intricate [read: time intensive] desk calendars we made for LoF5.

And then, a few years ago, things got real. We got serious about the goody and decided to make 200 LoF tote bags using tee-shirts all donated by our friends.  Getting the tee-shirts ended up being the easiest thing about this project.

Last year we made 200 custom-made desk calendars*.

A few things (but not 200 of those things):

a) Clearly we love our friends a lot and want to make something that represents how special we think you all are.

b) just like with the soundtrack, I’m not entirely sure why we’ve thought it was a good idea to let me handle any part of assembling 200 of something–oft with many little parts that all have to go together in a specific way. This is not easy for my non-linear brain. 2012, I’m not in charge of assembling the goody.

c) I highly recommend trying to assemble 200 of something. You’ll learn a lot about yourself, and why Fordism  is a great moment in our American history: the creation of the assembly line, and a wonderful product that everyone is proud of, and can afford to purchase.  You’ll also have lots of excuses to have some friends over to help–often (it can take awhile to create 200 of something).

d) The 2012 goody is going to be amazing. I can’t wait to see your faces when you take home your little treasure.

*Though I love America and I see the value in assembly line creation, I always was so surprised when friends would get together to cut out the materials to make the tote bags or make the calendars that everyone immediately began to set up the assembly line.  I also sort of was like, why? That’s too efficient, it’s too business-like for our fun, crafty gathering.  And then I was in charge of the 2011 goody…and I threw away the little templates for January 2012 (which is why everyone had to draw in that month) and we ended up with too many pages for one month and not enough for others, and though I still say I’m not a fan of the assembly line approach, I see the beauty in such organizing, and I’m no longer in charge of executing the goody…so, that’s helpful for everyone’s sanity.

Get Ready for Love of Friends 2012!

The LoF team has been working together year round into 2012 to ensure you have the best Valentine’s Day ever.

Love of Friends is going big time this year.

Love of Friends is a custom-made celebration dedicated to all the things we enjoy in our lives and brings all of those great things into one space for an evening of dancing (or not dancing), merry making, people-meeting and people seeing, great food and spirits without the big V-day stress hanging over our heads.

This year, with great help from our friends at Revive, we’re transforming this space

into a welcoming atmosphere to ensure you have a Valentine’s Day Love of Friend’s day not to be forgotten.

Here are the details:

1) 7-10pm 2.14.12 We’re in Bakery Square this year!

2) $25 gets you in and access to all the food, spirits and great art and people!

If you have your Valentine’s from us from 2011, you get $5 off your ticket price at the door!

Have your LoF5 desk calendar still? Flip over November for a Valentine from the LoF team to you! $5 off your ticket to LoF2012.

3) Are you an artist? We’re accepting applications to feature your work at the 2012 celebration!

4) Tell your friends, tell your colleagues, invite that person you think is super cool but haven’t talked to yet.

We’ll see you on the dance floor.

Embarrassing love story

by Regina.

LoF Team members Regina and Kelsey volunteering at the Union Project.

I’m taking things back. Back to the days during early blogging when, despite what bloggers were actually writing about, those that didn’t quite understand blogging thought blogging was just people writing about themselves and their feelings.  I’m going to actualize that sentiment by writing about me.  For some reason I feel compelled to tell an embarrassing story, and where else but on the blog where I know I am showered with love, so it’s okay if I’m a dork*.

There isn’t much love involved, so the title is a bit misleading.  No love, BUT, I was single at the time this occurred.

It was a summer when Hilary still worked at the Union Project. (Today, LoF team member Kelly works there!  [so get involved with UP!]).  I went to help volunteer for an outdoor music event happening later that day.  Keep in mind I got there HOURS before the music started.  Keep in mind that it was the time during summer where it was okay to wear white.

This is really embarrassing guys.

I made plans to meet up with a guy that night at the event, which probably constitutes a date.  Looking back, I probably knew it was a date at the time, but for some reason, I kept things as, “we’re just meeting up at an event! What? It’s music. People meet up all the time.”  Maybe this is where the love in this story ends.

Anyway, all the volunteers had to sign release forms just in case we somehow got hurt. Hilary asked me to come over to sign my form. We all joked that we should have signed the forms earlier because at that point we were all done lugging chairs and tables outside.

I walked over and said to Hilary and the small group around her signing forms, as I “pretended” to trip over a chair leg, “yeah, because it would really suck if someone–” and as I pretended to trip over the chair, that pretend trip turned into the real thing.  I was so shocked that I was actually tripping that I didn’t have time to catch myself.  I pretty much somersaulted off the chair and landed underneath the table where Hilary and everyone was sitting, to their shock and horror.  I was a tangled mess and it took a bit of time before I got up.  I had to roll off my side onto my knees to get up.  Honestly! I had to roll.  There was no grace.  Everyone asked if I was okay.  I was totally fine.  The grass on the side lawn of the Union Project is very soft, I must say.

But, yeah, the white pants I was wearing that day had two huge grass stains starting from my knees to…my shins.  Have you ever met a dorkier person? I mean, honestly.

I tried to roll my pants up, but because they were linen and wide legged and because every god everywhere wanted to laugh at me that day, my pants wouldn’t stay rolled up.  So there I was, as afternoon slipped into late afternoon, stationed at the soup table helping people with their soup with grass all over my pants.  There I was trying to rock out to Nick Westman and the Central Plains with the tell-tale dork mark all about me.  It wasn’t until I was wrapped in the cloak of darkness that I could actually face people head-on as opposed to sidling up to them.

But, you know what, this story is a love story.  It was at that party that I reconnected with Nik.  He and the CPs played at LoF 4 that February.  Kelsey and I have gone on to volunteer at the UP numerous times and as I mentioned, our very own Kelly now works there.  I love happy endings.

*Technically in the day-in-day-out I think I would be labeled a nerd, but in this story, I think dork is more fitting.

Perspectives

By Regina.

As some of you know, recently, I traded this house

for this house

Leaving Pittsburgh

I never thought I’d stay in Pittsburgh, but I never thought I would leave.  But, no matter what, I’m here in our nation’s capital.  I’ve had some time to reflect what exactly it means to no longer live in Pittsburgh.  And by reflect, it’s been me reliving my last few weeks in the Burgh acting out Faye Dunaway’s famous scene in Chinatown–a scene I’ve referenced all too often.  I was happy, I was really sad, I freaked out, I was excited, I freaked out more…and then more freaking out excitability.

I worried about what would happen with Love of Friends, I worried that I wouldn’t make new friends in DC and what’s worse, that my friends in Pittsburgh would forget me over time…like the first weekend I was gone.  Though I normally appreciated getting outside of my comfort zone in Pittsburgh, I realized, by moving to DC I was hurtling through about 14 different comfort zones.

I was practically on Mars.  It’s lovely there by the by.

Through all this freaking out, I’m not surprised to say it was my FRIENDS that collectively slapped the sense out of me hard enough to make Gittes proud.  Here I was, having pep talks with CP about new doors opening and the excitement of the anticipation of what lay ahead; being reminded by Kelsey via quoting the ever sagacious Chris that, “we’re solutions people,” and then having wine and cheese where I was told, “I’ll only be visiting you in DC all the time.”

Life in DC

And here I am in DC with my newish life, and some very new perspectives.  And it was my friends that helped me, even while still in DC to ease into the new perspectives–together.

And, though I live and breathe my friendships everyday, I was re-reminded of the power of friendship. I didn’t have to worry about LoF falling apart, we regrouped, got more organized, and duh, Regina, there’s this little thing called skype:

Technology and friendship

I was reminded that I actually like people and there are great new friends to meet in DC, and besides, there are a ton of Pittsburgher expats living in DC.

So, this is why I love my friends.  This is why I love Love of Friends and hope you can join us–you can come to a gathering of friends, maybe get outside of your comfort zone, but we’re all here to tell you, let’s don’t worry, let’s dance, let’s eat, let’s meet.

Much love.

LoF Founder Regina featured in Yinzpiration

Kate Stoltzfus, a Love of Friends friend for sure (she and husband Nik have attended the last 3 celebrations!) and all around amazing lady began a blog called Yinzpiration.  Kate interviews people she doesn’t know, or doesn’t know on a one-on-one basis.

Kate was kind enough to interview Regina for her blog!  Read the interview here!

Also, make sure to nominate someone for an interview for Yinzpiration!  Meet Kate and Nik  Stoltzfus 2.14.12 if not before!

 

 

LoF5 Valentine’s Day Wall posts continued

Here are a few more great images from the 2011 Valentine’s Day wall!  Be on the lookout for what you wrote, AND be on the lookout for your Admission of Admiration note!

Postcard from Katie for LoF5 2011

I wrote this one!:

When I met the Gillefonds LoF 2011 Valentine's Day wall

Artist update: Carol Skinger from LoF5

We love the artists that participate in Love of Friends.  The website is a great place to keep updated on what our artists, who have shown their work at Love of Friends over the years are up.  We just got a great new update from Carol Skinger.  Carol participated in LoF5 (20011).

Check out this blog post about her latest work!

My first Admission of Admiration

I just dropped my first Admission of Admiration.

So, it was Collaboration Friday–where a small group of us that often work together on projects gather at a cool spot to work on our 9-5 gigs. We used to meet at Right By Nature, but we all know how that ended.  On this particular Friday we gathered at Beehive, a great spot for us 9-5 south siders, and as Kelsey, who chose the spot explained, “I actually had cash, so why not?”  (I on the other hand had to procure some quick cash to adhere to the Beehive’s request of actually buying something if you want to stick around and use the internet.)

There we were, blogging, emailing, and as oft happens on Collaboration Friday, ideas started to form, and on this particular CF day, the idea for our “secret note drop” not only was formed, but I was also able to drop a note–an admission of admiration.

LoF secret note side 1

(So don’t forget to check the website often to find YOUR note on here!)

For the friends that get my hand-written heartfelt notes, they may have to spend a lot of time deciphering my chicken scratch.  This note is actually readable…but I didn’t write the first side of the note.

LoF secret note b sideAnd, after asking a million questions about the process of dropping these admiration admissions around town to people, (“Do I just hand it to them? Should I slip it to them and run away?  Are they supposed to know I sent it?) I “dropped” this admission of admiration by running after the person we wanted to invite, shouting his name, (probably making him question, “how does this crazy person know my name?” [I'll tell you at the party]) and saying, “here, we want to invite you to a party” and then walking away like a dork.

Why did we admire this particular person?

*Was wearing one of those cool “Walls are Bad” tee-shirts

* (some might say) he was working on a Mac

* He chatted with us about Walls are Bad

* He owns his own petty cab/rickshaw business.

Here is my reaction shot: feeling success:

Regina's reaction shot to dropping her first note

So, we’ll see you 2.14.12, right?

Welcome new Love of Friends team member!

We are so freaking lucky.  The team works so well together, we have a great time, we raise money for causes we believe in, and NOW this?

We get to add a super star hot mama (literally) to our group?

LoF team member JK meeting new LoF member Alexa FOR THE FIRST TIME during Collaboration Friday

Please join the LoF team in welcoming Alexa Belajac to the team! You might know Alexa from her community engagement work at WEYP (her department puts on the Holiday Hootenanny).  You might have seen her with her 3 amazing daughters running around town and thought to yourself, “this is how a family of supermodels is born, now I see…” But rest assured, you’ll get to see TONS of Alexa this year and most definitely on 2.14.12